SERIES: Starting Over: Rethink It
SPEAKER: Tyler McNeely
SCRIPTURE: Romans 12:2
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We learn from our mistakes in the areas that matter least. We repeat our mistakes in the areas that matter most. Too often, we look at our pasts and our decisions don’t even make sense to us. We end up asking, “What was I thinking?” 

But how do we avoid getting stuck in cycles of repeated mistakes that take our lives down the wrong paths? 


1. What’s one thing from your past, big or small, you wish you could “do over.” If you could go back in time, what would you do differently? 

2. Talk about a time when you saw someone make a mistake even though everyone around him or her warned that it was a mistake. Why do you think that person was unable to recognize that he or she was making a mistake even though it was obvious to everyone else? 
3. When have you believed that if you only had something or someone, you’d be satisfied with your life? If you finally obtained that something or someone, what was the result? 

4. One of the Seven Lethal Assumptions Tyler talked about during the message was, “My secret is safe with me.” Do you agree that it’s dangerous to live with secrets? Why or why not? 

5. Talk about a time when you made a mistake because you believed your situation was unique. How did you discover you weren’t alone, that other people had experienced similar situations? How did that change your perspective and your situation? 

6. Read Romans 12:1–2. What is one area of your life where you’re trying to put on the new without first taking off the old? What is one thing you can do this week to begin to renew your mind in this area? What can this group do to support you? 


Don’t end up asking, “What was I thinking?” Don’t be a conformer. Be a transformer. Next time can be better than last time if you renew your mind.


Ask attendees to share any prayer requests they have. Record any notes or prayer requests to pray for them during the week.